Assignment sheet
When i was first told we were going to write an arguementive writing assignment about the movie Step Brothers i was very nervous. Most of the movie is all immature comedy and couldnt be taken seriously. However, as a class we were able to come up with an arguement that we could easily work with. Entitlement. I decided to write my assignment as letter to the the parents, Nancy and Robert. I showed them ways on how they can change their parenting skills.
Here are some blogs post ive written that is related to the topic
1. 4 sources for Film-Based Project
2. Film Review
When i was first told we were going to write an arguementive writing assignment about the movie Step Brothers i was very nervous. Most of the movie is all immature comedy and couldnt be taken seriously. However, as a class we were able to come up with an arguement that we could easily work with. Entitlement. I decided to write my assignment as letter to the the parents, Nancy and Robert. I showed them ways on how they can change their parenting skills.
Here are some blogs post ive written that is related to the topic
1. 4 sources for Film-Based Project
2. Film Review
Draft #1
Dear Nancy and Robert,
You both remind me a little of my own parents. Watching the movie, I can tell you both care about your kids and want them to do well in life just like mine. However, although I can see your attempts in trying to discipline both Dale and Brennan like when Robert lined up many job interviews for Dale and Brennan however, when they failed completely, you both gave up on them and there were never any consequences for their actions during the interviews. Nancy and Robert, you both need to be more aggressive with your sons when trying to help them succeed.
You both are probably thinking to your selves that Dale and Brennan are grown adults and they should be able to handle adult responsibilities. They shouldn’t have to discipline them since they’re adults. Your right, they should be able to know right from wrong. They should be able to be responsible and independent adults. However, your parenting techniques when they were younger led them to have the sense of entitlement they have now. You are the ones to blame for why they can’t grow up. Dale and Brennan rely on you both to do everything for them. For example, when they demand you to make food for them in the morning. Instead of teaching them how to make food on their own, you make it for them. Children need to be taught how to care for themselves and be independent and an early age so they don’t grow up feeling entitled like Dale and Brennan do. It is okay to be childish sometimes. However, there is a time and place for that behavior and it was your job to teach them. For example, they should know that on a job interview, it isn’t appropriate to mock and the employer and let out a loud fart during the interview. That is for sure a no no! Also fighting outside in the yard making a big scene and making bunk beds at 30 years also shows they never learned right from wrong. There was never any consequences given to the boys after their actions. This makes them think that what they did was okay. If they were disciplined often they would know right from wrong.
Even though they are adults and should’ve learned these valuable lessons, there is some changes you can make in how you parent them now. It is time to let them out into the real world and experience life without mommy and daddy’s hand. They shouldn’t have to rely on both to do everything for them. You need to shake their sense of entitlement way out of them and give them a nice “You’re not kids anymore” reality check. Although I can tell you both care about them and don’t want them to fail. Sometimes failing is the best way to succeed. Time to kick those little birdies out of the nest and let them fly on their own. “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
Sincerely,
A concerned citizen for the human race
Dear Nancy and Robert,
You both remind me a little of my own parents. Watching the movie, I can tell you both care about your kids and want them to do well in life just like mine. However, although I can see your attempts in trying to discipline both Dale and Brennan like when Robert lined up many job interviews for Dale and Brennan however, when they failed completely, you both gave up on them and there were never any consequences for their actions during the interviews. Nancy and Robert, you both need to be more aggressive with your sons when trying to help them succeed.
You both are probably thinking to your selves that Dale and Brennan are grown adults and they should be able to handle adult responsibilities. They shouldn’t have to discipline them since they’re adults. Your right, they should be able to know right from wrong. They should be able to be responsible and independent adults. However, your parenting techniques when they were younger led them to have the sense of entitlement they have now. You are the ones to blame for why they can’t grow up. Dale and Brennan rely on you both to do everything for them. For example, when they demand you to make food for them in the morning. Instead of teaching them how to make food on their own, you make it for them. Children need to be taught how to care for themselves and be independent and an early age so they don’t grow up feeling entitled like Dale and Brennan do. It is okay to be childish sometimes. However, there is a time and place for that behavior and it was your job to teach them. For example, they should know that on a job interview, it isn’t appropriate to mock and the employer and let out a loud fart during the interview. That is for sure a no no! Also fighting outside in the yard making a big scene and making bunk beds at 30 years also shows they never learned right from wrong. There was never any consequences given to the boys after their actions. This makes them think that what they did was okay. If they were disciplined often they would know right from wrong.
Even though they are adults and should’ve learned these valuable lessons, there is some changes you can make in how you parent them now. It is time to let them out into the real world and experience life without mommy and daddy’s hand. They shouldn’t have to rely on both to do everything for them. You need to shake their sense of entitlement way out of them and give them a nice “You’re not kids anymore” reality check. Although I can tell you both care about them and don’t want them to fail. Sometimes failing is the best way to succeed. Time to kick those little birdies out of the nest and let them fly on their own. “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
Sincerely,
A concerned citizen for the human race
Final Draft
Dear Nancy and Robert,
You both remind me a little of my own parents. Watching the movie, I can tell you both care about your kids and want them to do well in life just like mine. However, although I can see your attempts in trying to discipline both Dale and Brennan like when Robert lined up many job interviews for Dale and Brennan however, when they failed completely, you both gave up on them and there were never any consequences for their actions during the interviews. Nancy and Robert, it is not too late to help your sons change their behavior.
You both are probably thinking to your selves that Dale and Brennan are grown adults and they should be able to handle adult responsibilities. They shouldn’t have to discipline them since they’re adults. Your right, they should be able to know right from wrong. They should be able to be responsible and independent adults. However, your parenting techniques when they were younger led them to have the sense of entitlement they have now. You are the ones to blame for why they can’t grow up. Dale and Brennan rely on you both to do everything for them. For example, when they demand you to make food for them in the morning. Instead of teaching them how to make food on their own, you make it for them. Children need to be taught how to care for themselves and be independent. In the article, it is okay to be childish sometimes. However, there is a time and place for that behavior and it was your job to teach them. For example, they should know that on a job interview, it isn’t appropriate to mock and the employer and let out a loud fart during the interview. That is for sure a no no! Also fighting outside in the yard making a big scene and making bunk beds at 30 years also shows they never learned right from wrong. There was never any consequences given to the boys after their actions. This makes them think that what they did was okay. If they were disciplined often they would know right from wrong.
Even though they are adults and should’ve learned these valuable lessons, there is some changes you can make in how you parent them now. It is time to let them out into the real world and experience life without mommy and daddy’s hand. They shouldn’t have to rely on both to do everything for them. You need to shake their sense of entitlement way out of them and give them a nice “You’re not kids anymore” reality check. I have read some articles recently that I think you two will find very helpful. In the article “Ground Rules for Living with an Adult Child by Megan Devine.” She talks about a very important method that i think works perfectly with your current situation. Throughout the whole article she mentions having a mutual living agreement between the parent and child. Basically what a mutual living agreement is it’s a guideline of household rules that your child must follow in order for them to continue living under your roof. Megan says “how clarifying rules and expectations can make things much more peaceful in the multi-generational home.” She believes that “Yes, your child may be an adult, and therefore legally able to make their own decisions, but your home it your home. I also agree with Megan. You have the right to enforce the rules of your home. You shouldn’t let your child walk all over you both like you have been doing all of their lives. Its time for you both to stand your ground to the boys and let them know if they don’t like the rules then get out. Megan also has provided a template you both can use in creating your own mutual living agreements. I also read another article called “How to Challenge a False Sense of Entitlement in kids” by James Lehman. He gave some good advise that could be very useful. One way to shake that sense of entitlement that Dale and Brennan desperately need to get rid of is have them work to earn money. In the article, James explains how “When kids have a false sense of entitlement, they don’t see the world in real terms. When money and material goods have been handed to them their whole lives, the danger is that they wont have the idea they should work hard to achieve their goals. Their view of the world will be, “if I want it, someone will give it to me”-but as we all know, that’s just not the way the world functions.” I believe that children will never learn to be independent if it isn’t being taught at home. Nancy and Robert, how could have expected them to take their job interviews seriously when they know you’ll just pay for everything anyway for them. They had no motivation to get the job because they never had to work for anything in their lives cant expect them to start now. In order to change their view on getting jobs, both of you should start small by hiring them to do jobs at the household and pay them for it. This way they will learn that if they work hard they will get rewarded for it. This technique will also create independence and a proper work ethic. Pretty soon they will be ready for their next interview and hopefully take it seriously. Although I can tell you both care about them and don’t want them to fail. Sometimes failing is the best way to succeed. Time to kick those little birdies out of the nest and let them fly on their own. “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
Sincerely,
A concerned citizen for the human race
Dear Nancy and Robert,
You both remind me a little of my own parents. Watching the movie, I can tell you both care about your kids and want them to do well in life just like mine. However, although I can see your attempts in trying to discipline both Dale and Brennan like when Robert lined up many job interviews for Dale and Brennan however, when they failed completely, you both gave up on them and there were never any consequences for their actions during the interviews. Nancy and Robert, it is not too late to help your sons change their behavior.
You both are probably thinking to your selves that Dale and Brennan are grown adults and they should be able to handle adult responsibilities. They shouldn’t have to discipline them since they’re adults. Your right, they should be able to know right from wrong. They should be able to be responsible and independent adults. However, your parenting techniques when they were younger led them to have the sense of entitlement they have now. You are the ones to blame for why they can’t grow up. Dale and Brennan rely on you both to do everything for them. For example, when they demand you to make food for them in the morning. Instead of teaching them how to make food on their own, you make it for them. Children need to be taught how to care for themselves and be independent. In the article, it is okay to be childish sometimes. However, there is a time and place for that behavior and it was your job to teach them. For example, they should know that on a job interview, it isn’t appropriate to mock and the employer and let out a loud fart during the interview. That is for sure a no no! Also fighting outside in the yard making a big scene and making bunk beds at 30 years also shows they never learned right from wrong. There was never any consequences given to the boys after their actions. This makes them think that what they did was okay. If they were disciplined often they would know right from wrong.
Even though they are adults and should’ve learned these valuable lessons, there is some changes you can make in how you parent them now. It is time to let them out into the real world and experience life without mommy and daddy’s hand. They shouldn’t have to rely on both to do everything for them. You need to shake their sense of entitlement way out of them and give them a nice “You’re not kids anymore” reality check. I have read some articles recently that I think you two will find very helpful. In the article “Ground Rules for Living with an Adult Child by Megan Devine.” She talks about a very important method that i think works perfectly with your current situation. Throughout the whole article she mentions having a mutual living agreement between the parent and child. Basically what a mutual living agreement is it’s a guideline of household rules that your child must follow in order for them to continue living under your roof. Megan says “how clarifying rules and expectations can make things much more peaceful in the multi-generational home.” She believes that “Yes, your child may be an adult, and therefore legally able to make their own decisions, but your home it your home. I also agree with Megan. You have the right to enforce the rules of your home. You shouldn’t let your child walk all over you both like you have been doing all of their lives. Its time for you both to stand your ground to the boys and let them know if they don’t like the rules then get out. Megan also has provided a template you both can use in creating your own mutual living agreements. I also read another article called “How to Challenge a False Sense of Entitlement in kids” by James Lehman. He gave some good advise that could be very useful. One way to shake that sense of entitlement that Dale and Brennan desperately need to get rid of is have them work to earn money. In the article, James explains how “When kids have a false sense of entitlement, they don’t see the world in real terms. When money and material goods have been handed to them their whole lives, the danger is that they wont have the idea they should work hard to achieve their goals. Their view of the world will be, “if I want it, someone will give it to me”-but as we all know, that’s just not the way the world functions.” I believe that children will never learn to be independent if it isn’t being taught at home. Nancy and Robert, how could have expected them to take their job interviews seriously when they know you’ll just pay for everything anyway for them. They had no motivation to get the job because they never had to work for anything in their lives cant expect them to start now. In order to change their view on getting jobs, both of you should start small by hiring them to do jobs at the household and pay them for it. This way they will learn that if they work hard they will get rewarded for it. This technique will also create independence and a proper work ethic. Pretty soon they will be ready for their next interview and hopefully take it seriously. Although I can tell you both care about them and don’t want them to fail. Sometimes failing is the best way to succeed. Time to kick those little birdies out of the nest and let them fly on their own. “It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
Sincerely,
A concerned citizen for the human race
Works Cited:
Devine, Megan. "Ground Rules for Living with an Adult Child." Empowering Parents. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/ground-rules-for-living-with-an-adult-child-plus-free-living-agreement/
Abraham, Kim, LMSW, and Marney Studaker-Cordner, LMSW. "Parenting Your Adult Child: Setting up a Mutual Living Agreement." Empowering Parents. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/parenting-your-adult-child-how-to-set-up-a-mutual-living-agreement
Lehman, James, MSW. "Challenge Entitlement in Children | Empowering Parents." Empowering Parents. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/i-want-it-now-how-to-challenge-a-false-sense-of-entitlement-in-kids/
Lowe, Lindsay. "8 Funny and Inspiring Quotes About Empty Nest Syndrome." Parade. N.p., 14 Sept. 2015. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. http://parade.com/422647/lindsaylowe/8-funny-and-inspiring-quotes-about-empty-nest-syndrome/
Devine, Megan. "Ground Rules for Living with an Adult Child." Empowering Parents. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/ground-rules-for-living-with-an-adult-child-plus-free-living-agreement/
Abraham, Kim, LMSW, and Marney Studaker-Cordner, LMSW. "Parenting Your Adult Child: Setting up a Mutual Living Agreement." Empowering Parents. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/parenting-your-adult-child-how-to-set-up-a-mutual-living-agreement
Lehman, James, MSW. "Challenge Entitlement in Children | Empowering Parents." Empowering Parents. N.p., n.d. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/i-want-it-now-how-to-challenge-a-false-sense-of-entitlement-in-kids/
Lowe, Lindsay. "8 Funny and Inspiring Quotes About Empty Nest Syndrome." Parade. N.p., 14 Sept. 2015. Web. 12 Dec. 2016. http://parade.com/422647/lindsaylowe/8-funny-and-inspiring-quotes-about-empty-nest-syndrome/